Is there a gap in communication in your relationship? Unable to get your emotions across? Couples can have a hard time communicating their feelings and thoughts when there is confusion in the approach to the topic with the partner. There have been misunderstandings and conflicts because of the lack of clarity about what offended you or your partner.
The first lesson is to understand which approach to the topic of conflict with your partner would work the best. Some understand the problem when said clearly in one sentence, some can find it hard to grasp the problem even after an elaborate explanation. You set the base here.
There will be gaps even after you build a base that helps you address the issues. Communication is nevertheless the key to successful relationships.
Learn to fill those gaps with these simple tips!
A soft start.
Your communication may not affect with full power if your partner is not in the mood. Remember to ask if it is a good time to talk to them. Talk to them about your issue in a calm manner. No one will understand what you are saying if you get aggressive first. You need a proper response, and not a reaction, from your partner over the topic you want to discuss.
Create a safe space.
When you are comfortable, you can speak your mind no holds bar. Ask your partner to sit next to you on a comfy sofa, or where they would be most comfortable physically. Environment affects our moods. The easier they feel, the more you can get out of the conversation.
Growth.
When partners listen to each other, reflect on what is said, and change their behaviors for the better, there is a growth of understanding. Work like a well-oiled team when you grow together to be the best versions of yourselves with the person you love. Respect for space and their boundaries is essential for the relationship not to turn toxic. Listen to hear and not to speak.
Tone and infliction.
Being mean and snarky, rude and disrespectful even during arguments can leave a mark in the relation. Bring your best to every conversation. Talking mildly does the trick. There will be no arguments if there is no disrespect. Shouting and screaming will not get your ideas through to them. Go into the conversation with patience, empathy, and clarity. You will find these elements the best for having any communication.
Overthinking and jumping to conclusions.
Jumping to conclusions and overthinking scenarios can damage your trust in the relationship and hinder proper communication. Try to talk to your partner before jumping to conclusions. Let them know what hurt you and give them a chance to offer clarity to the situation. Remember to let them complete the sentences before you stop them in the middle. You never know what comes out of their mouth next.
Couple communication means you tell them what you feel.
It can be tough to voice your emotions, but it is a direct way to let someone know what makes you uncomfortable and what doesn’t. Be clear and precise. First, understand the problem properly yourself, then clearly state it in simple words to your partner. Let your partner understand you better as you explain to them the problem.
Upholding promises.
Commitments to your partner should be fulfilled by you. This is the base of trust you create with your partner for a healthy relationship. If you promise to do something or change your behavior for the better, try to keep up those promises. It is important that your partner trusts you to fulfill your commitments. And if you forget it, own up to it. But uphold the purity of pinky promises!
No distractions.
Give full attention when your partner does the same. No T.V or phone to steal your attention from the conversation your partner is trying to have. Concentrate on communicating your feelings properly to each other. Understand each other.
Do not run away from having these conversations. It is important to sort out your conflicts and not pretend to be okay until the other forgets. They are someone you like to spend time with, why distract yourself from them?
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